About Adi Elinoff

I am not the therapist who will just nod for 50 minutes and send you home with a vague reminder to “communicate more.” My work is active, honest, and focused on helping you understand what is happening clearly enough to do something different with it. Sometimes that means slowing down a fight before it becomes the same fight you have had a hundred times. Sometimes it means naming the anxiety, defensiveness, resentment, shame, or shutdown that keeps taking over before you can actually say what you mean. Therapy with me is not about blaming one person or deciding who is “the problem.” It is about getting honest about the pattern, your role in it, and what has to change if you want something different.

My Story

Before I became a therapist, I thought I would spend my life in research. I majored in Neuroscience and Psychology at Lewis & Clark College and worked in a lab studying Parkinson’s disease. I loved learning how the brain works and how it shapes behavior. I did not love staring into a microscope all day.

What kept pulling me in was the bigger question underneath the data: how our wiring, experiences, and relationships shape the way we move through the world. How we attach, argue, avoid, shut down, protect ourselves, or reach for each other. So yes, I will probably talk about the brain and nervous system. I think it helps, though I may be a little biased.

What therapy looks like with me

I earned my master’s in counseling from Regis University and completed my clinical internship at Forge Counseling Collective, where I worked primarily with couples and individuals struggling with relationships. That work shaped a lot of how I practice now.

I noticed how often people wait until things feel unbearable before asking for help. They minimize. They adapt. They tell themselves it is not that bad, that this is just how relationships are, that if they can explain it better one more time then maybe something will finally change. But usually, the problem is not that you have not explained yourself enough. The problem is that the same pattern keeps taking over.

In session, we slow that pattern down. We look at what happens in real time: the moment anxiety takes over, the point where one person pushes and the other shuts down, the instinct to defend, fix, withdraw, over-explain, perform, or keep the peace at your own expense. Then we work on making something different possible.

I draw from ACT, EFT, and the Gottman Method, but I do not use therapy models as scripts. I use them as tools to help us understand the emotional cycle, build safety, practice repair, clarify boundaries, and create more intentional choices.

I am direct, but not harsh. I will challenge you, but I am not here to shame you. I care about emotional depth, but I also care about whether therapy changes anything outside of the room. The goal is not to keep you in therapy forever. The goal is to help you build enough clarity, confidence, and practice that the work starts showing up in the rest of your life.

You do not have to have it all figured out to start. You just have to be willing to show up.