Individual Therapy for Identity & Sexual Wellness in Westminster, CO
Whether you’re wrestling with your sense of identity or sexual orientation, feeling shame or confusion around your desires and boundaries, weighed down by anxiety and self‑criticism, or simply unsure about the next steps in your relationships and life, you’re not alone. I also support individuals navigating non‑monogamy, kink, or poly relationships at a personal level, helping you make sense of your experiences and move forward with clarity and confidence.
What You May Be Going Through
Life can feel heavy even when you are doing your best. You may be anxious, overwhelmed, stuck in your head or exhausted from trying to keep it all together. Maybe you are caught in old patterns you cannot break, or you feel like you are drifting away from the person you want to be.
You might notice you are overthinking everything. You might shut down when things get stressful or overextend yourself to keep the peace. You may feel disconnected from your own needs or unsure how to set boundaries without guilt. These experiences are common, and they make sense given what you have lived through.
Individual therapy gives you space to slow down, be honest with yourself and explore what is happening beneath the surface so you can make choices that support your well-being rather than drain it.
How I Work
I combine ACT, EFT, neuroscience and relational work to help you understand what is driving your patterns and how to create real, sustainable change.
We name the pattern: We look at the thoughts, emotions and reactions that show up on repeat. Understanding the pattern helps you break out of autopilot and respond with more clarity.
We work with the nervous system: Anxiety, shutdown and overwhelm are not personal failures. They are survival responses. We pay attention to what your body does so you can stay grounded instead of spiraling.
We explore your story with compassion: Your reactions have a history. We connect your present struggles to the experiences that shaped you, without judgment or shame.
We build skills that actually help: Using ACT and mindfulness-based tools, you learn how to regulate emotions, set boundaries, make values-driven decisions and communicate with more confidence.
We look at your relationships: Your relationships influence how you see yourself. We explore patterns with partners, family, friends and yourself to help you build the connections you want.
Specialties
Anxiety & Self‑Criticism Support
Anxiety often shows up as racing thoughts, spirals and the pressure to prepare for every possible outcome. You might feel like you have to hold everything together, avoid mistakes or anticipate what everyone else needs. Perfectionism can grow from this same place, making rest uncomfortable and turning small decisions into high-stakes moments. Together, we explore what your anxiety is trying to protect you from, understand the beliefs that keep you pushing past your limits and build tools that help you feel grounded, steady and less overwhelmed by your own mind.
Identity Exploration
It is normal to question who you are, what you want and how you want to show up in relationships or in your life. Sometimes identity shifts during major life changes, relationship changes or simply growing into yourself. You may feel confused, pulled in different directions or unsure what fits you anymore. Therapy gives you space to explore this without pressure, judgment or expectation. We focus on clarity, congruence and building a life that feels like yours.
Sexual Wellness and Connection
Sexual concerns can feel confusing or isolating, even when everything else in life looks stable. You might notice changes in desire, anxiety around intimacy or difficulty relaxing in sexual moments. These experiences are common and never something to be ashamed of. We explore the emotional, relational and physical factors influencing your sexual wellbeing so you can feel more confident, connected and at ease in your sexual self.
Relationship Patterns
If you keep ending up in the same dynamic with partners or family, there is a deeper pattern at play. You might feel clingy, avoidant, shut down or overly responsible for other people’s emotions. These patterns make sense given your history, but they may not reflect who you want to be now. In therapy, we unpack where these reactions come from and practice new ways of relating that help you feel steadier and more connected.
Boundary Struggles
Setting boundaries can feel scary when conflict has never felt safe. You may say yes even when you are overwhelmed or avoid speaking up because you do not want to upset anyone. This can lead to resentment, burnout and feeling invisible in your own life. Together, we look at why boundaries feel so hard and practice setting limits that honor your needs without guilt. Boundaries become something grounding instead of something threatening.
Non-Monogamy, Polyamory & Kink-Affirming Support
Navigating non-monogamy, polyamory or kink dynamics can bring up questions about boundaries, communication, jealousy and identity. You may feel unsure how to talk to partners about your needs or how to handle emotions that feel big or unexpected. Therapy offers a supportive, non-judgmental space to sort through these experiences, understand the patterns that show up in your relationships and move toward more clarity, confidence and connection, whether you’re practicing solo poly, exploring open relationships or deepening intimacy in kink dynamics.
Contact me, let’s chat!
adi@underoneroofcounseling.com
(720) 634-6529