Couples & Sex Therapy in Westminster, CO
Whether you’re rebuilding trust after infidelity, exploring non‑monogamy, feeling stuck in high‑conflict cycles or facing mismatched desire, you’re not alone. I help couples in Westminster and the Denver area slow down the cycle, communicate better and reconnect emotionally and physically.
What’s going on, and why it happens
Relationships get stuck for real reasons. Maybe the same argument keeps playing on repeat, one of you shuts down while the other pushes harder, or things look calm from the outside but feel distant underneath. Infidelity, jealousy or exploring open relationships can intensify these patterns. Even strong couples struggle when stress, hurt or old wounds take over. Most partners aren’t trying to hurt each other; they’re trying to protect themselves. When we slow things down, we can see what happens in those first few seconds before everything spirals. That’s where change begins. You don’t need to be in crisis to come in; many couples seek therapy because they want more closeness, honesty and ease with each other.
How I Work
I use a blend of ACT, EFT, the Gottman Method and neuroscience to help you understand your cycle and create a more connected way of relating. Here is what that looks like in simple, concrete steps.
We slow down the pattern: Most arguments escalate before you even know what happened. We pause the moment things start to shift and look at what is happening underneath, not just the part where you both feel frustrated.
We focus on emotional safety: Lasting change happens when both partners feel heard and understood. We work on talking in ways that keep both of you grounded instead of defensive or shut down.
We build skills that last: Using evidence-based tools, you learn how to repair after conflict, express needs more clearly and build daily habits that strengthen connection over time.
We work with the nervous system: Your reactions are shaped by how your body processes stress. We pay attention to what your nervous system does during hard moments so you can stay regulated and connected.
We return to your values: You learn to reconnect with the kind of partner you want to be. Instead of reacting from fear or habit, you learn to respond from clarity, intention and care.
Specialties
Infidelity & Betrayal
Healing after infidelity requires more than “forgiving and moving on.” We slow the process down, make room for the hurt partner’s experience, help the involved partner show up with clarity and accountability, and rebuild emotional and physical safety step by step.
Non-Monogamy & Open Relationships
Opening a relationship or navigating multiple partners can feel overwhelming without a clear foundation. I help with agreements, communication, jealousy, time balance and emotional safety so non-monogamy feels intentional and supportive, not chaotic or confusing.
High Conflict
Conflict usually comes from fear, not anger. I help you understand your escalation pattern, interrupt the cycle that keeps pulling you into the same fight and build communication habits that reduce defensiveness and tension.
Emotional Distance
Disconnection often starts quietly: fewer conversations, less touch, less laughter. We explore how the distance formed, what each of you has been protecting and how to rebuild regular moments of warmth, attention and shared meaning.
Sexual Connection & Desire
Sex can feel confusing when desire shifts, mismatches grow or you feel disconnected in the bedroom. We explore what makes sex feel safe, interesting and fulfilling for both of you, and address the emotional and physical barriers that get in the way of closeness.
Communication Breakdowns
Most partners think communication means “saying the right words.” It is actually about emotional cues, timing and nervous system responses. We focus on clarity, listening, repair and how to break the cycle of misunderstandings that leave you both feeling alone.
Ready to take the next step?
If something you read here resonated, that’s usually a good place to start. You don’t need to have the right words or a clear plan. Reaching out can simply be a way to ask questions and see what support might look like.
You can contact me to schedule a free 15 minute consultation or to learn more about working together.