Infidelity Counseling and Betrayal Recovery
Discovering infidelity or a serious breach of trust can feel disorienting and destabilizing. What you believed about your relationship may suddenly feel uncertain, and the emotional impact can be intense. One partner may feel flooded with questions, anger, or panic, while the other feels shut down, ashamed, or unsure how to help without making things worse. Betrayal recovery therapy offers a structured space to slow the process down, make sense of what happened, and begin rebuilding emotional safety.
I primarily work with couples navigating infidelity and betrayal in Westminster, Colorado and across the Denver metro area. This work can also support individuals processing betrayal outside of couples therapy.
When trust breaks
After betrayal, couples often feel stuck in patterns they do not recognize. Conversations loop. Arguments escalate quickly or disappear into silence. You may feel torn between wanting closeness and needing distance, or between wanting answers and wanting the pain to stop.
This may resonate if you are experiencing:
Intrusive thoughts or a constant need for reassurance
A loss of emotional or physical safety
Intense anger, numbness, panic, or grief
Difficulty trusting what you are being told
Defensiveness, shutdown, or avoidance around the topic
Uncertainty about whether repair is possible
Betrayal can take many forms, including affairs, emotional infidelity, secrecy, hidden behaviors, or repeated boundary violations. The specifics matter, but so does the impact. These reactions are common responses to a relational rupture, not signs that you are failing at recovery.
What we work on in betrayal recovery
My approach to betrayal recovery is structured, trauma-informed, and grounded. I integrate ACT, EFT, Gottman-informed couples work, and neuroscience to help couples slow reactive cycles, understand emotional responses, and engage in repair without escalating or shutting down.
Sessions are paced intentionally. You will not be pushed to share everything at once or pressured to decide the future of your relationship prematurely. My role is to help you stay grounded, make sense of what is happening beneath the surface, and create a process that supports clarity rather than chaos.
This work can also support individuals processing betrayal on their own. If there is an aspect of your experience I do not fully understand, I strive to approach it curiously.
We stabilize the emotional and nervous system response
After betrayal, bodies stay on high alert. We focus first on slowing reactivity so conversations do not retraumatize either partner.
We rebuild trust through behavior
Trust is restored through predictability, transparency, and follow-through over time. We identify concrete changes that support safety rather than relying on words alone.
We make space for the injured partner’s experience
Healing requires room for anger, grief, confusion, and pain without minimizing or overwhelming. We work on expressing these experiences in ways that are contained and heard.
We clarify what repair means now
Recovery does not mean returning to the relationship as it was. We explore what each partner needs going forward and whether rebuilding trust feels possible and aligned.
We focus on accountability and repair
Repair involves consistent, meaningful accountability rather than reassurance or promises. We clarify what responsibility looks like moving forward.
Ready to take the next step?
If something you read here resonated, that’s usually a good place to start. You don’t need to have the right words or a clear plan. Reaching out can simply be a way to ask questions and see what support might look like.
You can contact me to schedule a free 15 minute consultation or to learn more about working together.