Open Relationships, Polyamory, and Boundary Repair
Non-monogamous relationships can offer freedom, depth, and honesty, and they can also surface intense emotions and patterns very quickly. Jealousy, miscommunication, broken agreements, or mismatched expectations can shake the foundation of even the most intentional relationship. Therapy offers a space to slow things down, make sense of what is happening, and rebuild trust in a way that works for your relationship structure.
I work primarily with couples and multi-partner systems navigating open relationships, polyamory, and boundary repair in Westminster, Colorado and across the Denver metro area. This work can also apply to individuals who want support navigating non-monogamy with more clarity and steadiness.
When openness starts to feel hard
Many people enter non-monogamy with good intentions and still find themselves overwhelmed once real emotions show up. What looked clear in theory can feel messy in practice. You may be questioning agreements, struggling with jealousy, or unsure how to repair something that feels broken.
This may fit if you are dealing with:
Boundary breaches or broken agreements
Jealousy that feels intense or unmanageable
One partner wanting more openness than the other
Difficulty rebuilding trust after secrecy or miscommunication
Feeling insecure, replaceable, or emotionally flooded
Struggles around time balance, prioritization, or fairness
Trouble voicing needs without fear of losing the relationship
Confusion about what agreements actually work long-term
For individuals, this can show up as anxiety around partners’ other relationships, difficulty advocating for needs, or feeling torn between autonomy and connection.
What we work on in therapy
Therapy for open and poly relationships is not about deciding whether non-monogamy is “right” or “wrong.” It is about helping you build a structure that feels emotionally safe, honest, and sustainable for everyone involved. My approach to working with open and poly relationships is structured, affirming, and practical. I help partners slow reactive cycles, clarify agreements, and understand how attachment, jealousy, and nervous system responses shape behavior. We focus on repair, communication, and building agreements that are realistic and sustainable, not idealized or driven by fear.
We clarify agreements and expectations
Many conflicts stem from assumptions rather than explicit agreements. We slow things down and get clear about what boundaries actually mean, where they came from, and whether they still fit.
We improve communication across partners
Non-monogamy requires clear, honest communication. We work on naming needs, fears, and limits in ways that reduce defensiveness and increase mutual understanding.
We work with jealousy and insecurity
Jealousy is not a failure. It is information. We explore what jealousy is protecting, how it connects to attachment and nervous system responses, and how to respond without shame or reactivity.
We support emotional regulation and balance
When multiple relationships are involved, stress and overwhelm can rise quickly. We help you build steadiness so decisions are made from clarity rather than panic.
We repair after ruptures
Boundary breaks and secrecy can damage trust deeply. We focus on accountability, repair, and rebuilding safety without rushing forgiveness or minimizing impact.
Ready to take the next step?
If something you read here resonated, that’s usually a good place to start. You don’t need to have the right words or a clear plan. Reaching out can simply be a way to ask questions and see what support might look like.
You can contact me to schedule a free 15 minute consultation or to learn more about working together.