Sex Therapy
Sex is one of the most common places couples get stuck, not because something is wrong with you, but because intimacy touches everything. Stress, resentment, shame, past experiences, mismatched desire, poor communication, or feeling emotionally distant can all show up in the bedroom. Sex therapy is a space to talk about it honestly, without blame, pressure, or awkward “so… how’s sex?” energy.
I primarily provide sex therapy for couples in Westminster, Colorado and across the Denver metro area. I also work with individuals who want support around sexual wellbeing, desire, identity, and intimacy.
When sex becomes a source of tension
A lot of couples avoid talking about sex until it becomes a problem. Then it can feel loaded. You might be having less sex, more conflict about sex, or sex that feels disconnected or performative. One partner may want more closeness while the other feels pressured or shut down. Sometimes the issue is desire. Sometimes it is trust. Sometimes it is resentment that has nothing to do with sex but shows up there anyway. Common reasons couples seek sex therapy include:
Desire differences or mismatched libido
Feeling like roommates, not partners
Trouble initiating or responding to initiation
Anxiety, pressure, or performance concerns
Pain, discomfort, or tension during sex
Porn use disagreements or secrecy
Rebuilding intimacy after betrayal
Exploring kink, fantasies, or new dynamics
Navigating non-monogamy and sexual agreements
My approach is sex-positive, LGBTQIA+ affirming, open & poly affirming, and kink-informed. I integrate ACT, EFT, Gottman-informed couples work, and neuroscience. That means we name patterns clearly, slow the cycle down in real time, and build practical changes you can take into life outside the session.
Sessions are conversational, grounded, and direct. You will not be pushed to share details you are not ready to share. If there is an aspect of your life I do not fully understand, I strive to approach it curiously.
What we work on in sex therapy
Sex therapy is not a script and it is not about forcing intimacy. We focus on the full system that shapes sex between you, including emotional safety, stress, communication, and nervous system responses. My approach to sex therapy is grounded, structured, and collaborative. I help couples slow reactive patterns down, understand how emotional safety and the nervous system shape intimacy, and build clearer ways to talk about sex without pressure or blame. We focus on curiosity rather than performance, and on changes that actually translate into everyday life, not just insight in session.
We build emotional safety first
For most couples, sex improves when emotional safety improves. We slow down the moments where you feel rejected, pressured, criticized, or shut down and practice repair that actually lands.
We reduce shame and pressure
When sex starts to feel like a test, your body responds like it is under threat. We work with anxiety and performance pressure so intimacy can feel more present and less tense.
We make desire make sense
Desire is shaped by stress, resentment, self-image, past experiences, and whether intimacy feels safe and mutually rewarding. We identify what supports desire for each of you and what blocks it.
We support exploration with clarity
If you are exploring kink or navigating boundaries like an open or poly relationship, we focus on consent, communication, boundaries, and emotional safety. This is a sex-positive, kink-informed space.
We improve communication about sex
Many couples have never learned how to talk about sex without someone feeling wrong. We build language for needs, boundaries, and preferences so conversations feel honest instead of loaded.
Ready to take the next step?
If something you read here resonated, that’s usually a good place to start. You don’t need to have the right words or a clear plan. Reaching out can simply be a way to ask questions and see what support might look like.
You can contact me to schedule a free 15 minute consultation or to learn more about working together.